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QuitStalkingMe.com is a resource for preventing cyber stalking and current or former victims of cyber stalkers. Learn how to tracking a cyber stalker's activity; prevent a cyber stalker from doing more harm, whether emotionally, mentally or physically. The goal of this website is to empower people to use technology to their advantage for the betterment of humankind by reporting such crimes like cyber stalking.
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Your cell phone, IM, and social networks are all a digital extension of who you are. When someone you’re with pressures you or disrespects you in those places, that’s not cool. – thatsnotcool.com
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There was no way to determine whether this person who requested to be my friend on MySpace was really the person in the photo with the accompanying profile information. Not really thinking that there was any harm in accepting a friend’s request, I approved his request. He had a ton of photos posted on his profile, and it seemed like he was a decent person. Honestly though, you never know who it is that you are really communicating with because whoever that person is, is hiding behind a computer. In the millions of accounts online, how do you determine who is really your friend and who is out there to hurt you?
By Mai Hlee Xiong
Thank you for visiting QuitStalkingMe.com.
You may have heard that in 2008 I was the victim of a cyber stalker who defamed me on the internet. After months of investigation, the Warren Police Department and the Macomb County Prosecutor determined through forensic evidence that the culprit behind this criminal activity is a man named Nhia Lee, who also goes by the name of “Tyler” or “Tong Chai”.
I have not taken steps to sue Mr. Lee or anyone in this matter. However, using my web knowledge I was able to help the Warren Police in their investigation to determine that Mr. Lee was hiding behind a computer, anonymously cyber stalking and harassing me. I have asked law enforcement to ensure that he be prosecuted and, if found guilty, that he be punished to the fullest extent of the law for his actions. Nhia Lee is charged with one count of a two-year felony by the state of Michigan, in Macomb County, the cybercrime of “Unlawful Posting of a Message” case no 09-. Mr. Lee has publicly admitted to committing the malicious acts that constitute this crime. As of March, 2, 2009, he is released on bail for $15,000. He currently resides in Shelby Township, Michigan.
A new state law in Maryland could pass to expand cyber harassment to social networks, currently it is limited to email only. It is important to know that, cyber harassment already exists in social networks and acoss all different types of media outlets including cell phones. This law ought to pass and other states should follow suit in order to prevent cyberstalkers from doing more harm.
The current law says you can be charged with a misdemeanor and sentenced to up to one year in prison or fined $500.
Last summer, a 13-year-old Maryland girl became the target of former friends who put up a fake MySpace page depicting her as a crazy, drunken, promiscuous girl.
Kids can be cruel, and some parents say it’s time for Maryland law to address cyber bullying.
Police protection from cyber harassment in Maryland is limited to e-mail.
Under House bill 580, that protection would expand to any electronic communication, including social networking sites and online postings. - wtop.com
Even though you may be the victim of a cyberstalking crime, you may not want to believe it. Sometimes you might even think this person who is harassing you will stop. But they won’t, and if they do, most likely they will have found a new victim to harass. It is important to recognize what cyberstalking is, and to prevent it from happening to you. Here is another great resource to learn more about cyberstalkers and what they are capable of.
Cyberharassment is harassment over the Internet. This crime can take many forms, ranging from persistent instant messages and emails to outright Internet attacks or defamations. This type of crime is often driven by the perpetrators desire to teach the victim a lesson or embarrass him or her. The perpetrator may post threatening or harmful messages on forums, send threatening emails, or put up Internet pages with false information about the victim. They may sign the victim up for pornography sites, use their email information to post incriminating or embarrassing information, and other such behavior. – Internet Safety for Kids
I am a young woman, fresh out of college. Most marketing experts would label me generation-y or a millennial. I am connected in every way to technology and the Internet. I built my career around the Internet and carry the latest technology in my back pocket. Becoming a specialist in the WWW was my goal since the age of 12. My first website that I ever built was hosted on geocities, before it was bought out by Yahoo!. My new website featured a blinking star background that was tiled to look like outerspace. There were red roses and a corny midi song playing too. I posted poems that I had written; graphics that I created; I even put a picture up of myself sitting at my Toshiba monitor smiling into the 3.1 megapixel camera. I posted stories about my middle school drama and my high school boyfriends. I even had a few friends who I had never seen in real life who I felt ‘knew’ me well. This was before blogs were even called blogs. I called it my online journal. Visitors could leave me comments by signing my guestbook. Or they could email me through my nifty JavaScript contact form. I even posted my own love/hate letters on sothere.com.
Over time I had a presence; I posted and responded to others through message boards; I had my own page on one of those early Community Connect ‘social’ networks (now known as InteractiveOne). This was the ‘MySpace of the day’. Customization was done with HTML tables and div tags. CSS was virtually an unknown language, at least at the time.
I was intrigued about ‘the source code’. Right clicking became the norm when surfing. I wanted to learn how a page was being built. You learn a whole lot faster when you are young. That’s why nowadays I am not surprised to know that a 9 year old can build her own site. HTML is easy. The Title of a webpage in HTML language is written as <title>This would be the title</title>
One day in college my roommate mentioned to me about this new site called facebook. ‘It’s for college students only so you have to sign up with your college email account’ Meanwhile, in my yahoo inbox I kept getting invites from friends for hi5, Bebo, xanga, classmates, YouTube, flickr, Yahoo!Groups, google groups, and then MySpace. Our college even launched its own BlackBoard, an online portal to connect students and teachers to their courses. Everything seemed easy and fast then. I was connected in every single way to the entire world. I even did my banking online. The internet was safer than walking down the street to the ATM at night! The only people that I actually ever really talked to, in traditional communication channels, were my parents.
Finally, I gave in to the pressure and decided to sign up for a MySpace account. Everyone was doing it, and all my friends kept talking about who was on there and what they were doing. It was like the popularity contest for the cyber world. Gossip is posted openly in comment areas. Everyone sees quickly how many friends you have in your network. Photos of you splattered everywhere: Halloween party ’06; at home with the family; out dancing; having dinner; photos from the mobile nokia –and then came the iphone; calendar of events, even your own very section for a blog. Uploading became faster and easier too as technology improved on sites like MySpace and so everyone posted even more pictures, and homemade video clips were sooo easy to embed you didn’t even have to know a tag of html! YouTube became a phenomenal and at one point MySpace banned the posting of YouTube videos on their pages. That created an outrage, and after time they quickly allowed it again.
Being a part of social networks was like being a part of an exclusive club. You knew you were ‘in’. It seemed like everyone’s entire life was being consumed by this new fad. Friend’s upcoming birthday parties. Friends tagging you in photos that you never wanted to show up online. Invitations to the night club with scandalous half naked models looking provocatively at the camera. It was like unwanted spam that you couldn’t get rid of, like when you’re out late at night with the girls clubbing and return to your parked car only to find postcards and flyers stuck on your windshield wipers. Quizzes with 10 question and answers, like the old email chain letters, except now it was being labeled as a ‘bulletin’ post where everyone on your list of friends could see it the instant you submitted it. Everything was there for everyone to see.
Once I got close to 1,000 friends I started to think, did I really have 1,000 friends who I talked to daily, weakly, or even yearly? But they wanted to be my friend.. or so at least I thought. The requests kept coming. Do people just sit at their computer every day and click the request button on every profile they run across? Everyday my page was getting hundreds of hits from all over the world from people I had never even met or spoken to. For a minute I thought, maybe there are too many people viewing what I was doing, so I decided to set my page to private. First I had to figure out how to change my settings in the jumble mess of links that MySpace keeps hidden in the corners. MySpace is the worst designed social network ever. Most people are not Designers so I guess that’s ok for them. People get used to looking at sites like MySpace, and Amazon, so they think it’s acceptable.
One day, I got a request from a person who seemed –not so bad looking. His ‘location’ was listed as local. He looked my age. Maybe we’d meet up to hang out? He mentioned. Not thinking twice about it, I clicked the ‘accept’ button.
